‘That said, I’d like to respond to this challenge with a couple challenges of my own. I am not a doctor and I have no intimate knowledge of other people’s daily behavior. The truth is, I can’t speak to who is living an unhealthy lifestyle. I want to do what I can to challenge our society’s stereotypes of beauty and offer another vision of beauty. ‘My focus is simply to highlight a different perspective,’ he tells GSN. When GSN has run articles on body positivity in the past, someone will inevitably accuse us ‘glamorizing unhealthy lifestyles.’ The goal here was to uplift and empower men of size and embrace their beauty.’ Body positivityĭespite the growth in the bear scene worldwide, some people continue to find the portrayal of big guys in a positive light controversial. Too often in media, large men are painted as villains or buffoons the butt of a joke. ‘Yes, I absolutely objectify the men, but I’m careful to do it in a way that is respectful, artistic and focused on that which makes them beautiful and unique. ‘I couldn’t be happier with the visuals, and the beautiful men behind the visuals,’ says Goss. It features a couple of friends and some men he approached online. Goss directed and co-produced the video for Round In All The Right Places, with additional production and by Nathaniël Siri. ‘Dexter’ in Tom Goss’ visual for Round in all the Right Places (Photo: Nathaniël Siri) ‘Too often in media, large men are painted as villains or buffoons’ I want to send some messaging out into the world that says the opposite.’ Then we wonder why people often view themselves in a negative light. “Change who you are, lose it at all costs,” we’re told.
‘The world is telling plus sized people that their butts are sagging and their bellies are too flabby. So I began asking other men of size the same question and no one was able to tell me, “not a damn thing, I love it all!” I was floored, mainly because, to me, everything about his body is stunning. I asked him what he hated most about his body. ‘Then I got a text from a friend who happens to be round and absolutely beautiful. Shooting the video for Round in all the Rights Places (Photo: Nathaniël Siri)
‘I had been trying to write Round in all the Right Places for some time, but what was coming out simply wasn’t working for me,’ says Goss of his new track. In 2012, he released a music video for the track, You Know That I Love You, that documented his marriage ceremony. He married his husband, Mike Briggs in 2010 and is now based in Los Angeles. Since then, he’s released five further albums and has regularly performed around the US and at Pride festivals. He self-released his debut album, Naked Without, in 2006. Finding his voice and beginning his music careerĪfter putting thought of the priesthood behind him, he began his singer-songwriter career in the coffee houses of Washington DC in the early 00s. However, that sexual drive was awaked when he met and fell for a plus-sized man and became aware of the bear community.
Honestly, I thought it was something everyone around me was making up.’ I didn’t have the typical emotional or sexual drive that other guys seemed to have. ‘I had spent my high school years focused on wrestling, my studies and friends.
He entered a seminary to train to be a priest, and didn’t go on his first date until he was 22. That and his own struggles with his sexuality cast a dark shadow over his romantic life. He learned at a young age that relationships can be painful and damaging, after his parents divorced while he was in 4th grade. Struggles with his sexuality and love of big men I wanted to be direct, honest and graphic to really convey the shape, the allure, the seduction of big men.’ ‘For this one, I wanted to write something that was more specific and mature. ‘I used to get annoyed by the question, but then I started to reflect on it and I came to the conclusion that I hadn’t done an adequate job of describing what is so intoxicating to me about men of size. ‘Even after ‘Bears’, people would constantly ask me if I really had a thing for large men,’ Tom Goss said in a press statement. Five years after he released his track, Bears, he’s revealed a video today for new song, Round In All The Rights Places.
Out gay singer Tom Goss is reasserting his love of big men.